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How about penis enlargement for the best man?
Why is it always women who have to suffer? Spread the joy and say no to saggy balls. Make groomsmen get their scrotums tightened.
via Boing Boing.
Some marriage-crazed brides are demanding that their bridesmaids get laser-surgery, botox, breast-enhancements and salon tans before Der Tag.
Two weeks ago, Health Travel Guides, a medical tourism company, exhibited at the Dallas Bridal Show for the first time. “We received 30 requests for quotes among the bridal show attendees — mostly for plastic surgery such as liposuction and breast augmentation,” said Sandra Miller, the company’s chief marketing officer.
Category: Sexual Health
Posted on 7/29/2008 1:08:41 AM by Gloria Brame
FOUND: Messy Fun at MIT
Ah, so this is how brains have fun.

from MIT Steer Roast
Categories: Post-Modern Pop Culture
Sexual Beauty
Sexual Humor
Sexual Strangeness
Posted on 7/29/2008 1:07:42 AM by Gloria Brame
Miley's tongue
For weeks and months, AOL (aka !!%#$&!!$ AOL) "news" has been sucker-punching me with someone named Miley, who I have involuntarily learned is a) the child of the Mr. Achy Breaky Heart and b) dresses like a tramp.
But nothing I found out about Spawn-of-Achy prepared me for her tongue:

Category: Sexual Humor
Posted on 7/29/2008 1:06:43 AM by Gloria Brame
Relaxing my mind
I'm going to be taking a couple of weeks' vacation this summer, starting the 2nd week in August, and blog posts will be light to non-existent during that time. I had intended to bring back the Friday erotic art shows this month but as some may have noticed, they ain't back yet! My apologies. My practice has been off the hook this summer, and my clients always get priority, ergo...the schedule's been too full to keep up with anything but essentials.
Between now and then, expect to see lots of enchanting images, and a whole lot of shorter and more personal commentary. As an experiment, I was using my myspace page for more personal blogging, and keeping this one more news-oriented and analytical, but for the next little while, I'm going to blur that line, relax my codes, abandon my inhibitions....and post random thoughts and observations here in a slow unwind to happy vacation bliss. Should be therapeutic. At least for me. :)
Meanwhile, here is my current choice of utterly totally relaxing images, found on cuteoverload.com --

Category: Autobiographical Urges
Posted on 7/29/2008 1:05:44 AM by Gloria Brame
FOUND: 19th c. mechanical watch
Exquisite mechanical pocket watch, with gorgeous engravings in front and secret sex on the back.

Once you press the button on the top, the watch strikes the current quarter and hour. Here comes the interesting part. While the watch strikes, one figure on the dial will rise the hammer and hits the bell for the number of quarter, then the other figure would hit the bell again to present the number of the hour. To mark the value of this rare pocket watch even higher, it comes with a fusses chain driven movement. It is a cylinder escapement (which is often used in 1820 – 1850) in French or Swiss watches. No maker name is found.
More pix and details on eBay
Category: Sex and History
Posted on 7/28/2008 5:40:22 AM by Gloria Brame
FOUND: 19th c. nautical sex toy
Amazing little antique folk art mechanical toy, for sale right now on eBay.
This is a RARE and a fine piece of folk art cleverly designed. There is small crank on the right side which turns best clockwise and mechanically moves the man up and down....


Dimensions: Box measures 3 1/2" long, 1 1/2" wide, 1 1/2" tall.
Age: I am guessing the piece is pre-1900. The work of the figure carving is very detailed and smoothed. Not crude in any way. Many small pins control the articulation. The box is hand gouged out. The hinge seems to be tin or brass with small brass pins.
more pix on eBay
Category: Sex and History
Posted on 7/28/2008 5:39:25 AM by Gloria Brame
FOUND: 1920s nude with mirror
Delightful vintage postcard:

Category: Sex and History
Posted on 7/28/2008 5:38:27 AM by Gloria Brame
Soy smacks down male fertility
If you're a guy who's trying to have kids, you might want to cut soy and soy-based products out of your diet.
I'd like to see more data on this. The study focused on men visiting fertility clinics (i.e., who were already aware of issues). I wonder if anyone's ever done study, though, to find out whether male vegetarians who rely heavily on soy products are experiencing low sperm counts as a group.
Soy Linked to Lower Sperm Count
Eating a half serving a day of soy-based foods could be enough to significantly lower a man's sperm count, U.S. researchers said on Wednesday.
The study is the largest in humans to look at the relationship between semen quality and a plant form of the female sex hormone estrogen known as phytoestrogen, which is plentiful in soy-rich foods.
Category: Sexual Health
Posted on 7/25/2008 11:31:05 AM by Gloria Brame
Where will you be September 6th?
If you get to this event, I want to hear *all* about it.

Category: Sex and Sadomasochism
Posted on 7/24/2008 3:10:42 PM by Gloria Brame
And speaking of shoe fetishes...
For those of you who just can't get enough. (Go ahead, try to look innocent...)
The High Heel Shoe Museum (on-line) features a "Gallery of gorgeous women wearing sexy high heel shoes, an interactive shoe fetish community, and lots of links to shoe-merchants who specialize in sexy styles.

Category: Sex and Sadomasochism
Posted on 7/24/2008 3:09:44 PM by Gloria Brame
Say goodnight, Gloria and Gracie
If you didn't get a chance to hear my interview by the delicious Gracie Passette a couple of weeks ago on "The Cult of Gracie," you can listen to us now by clicking on this pretty widget. The interview ran for a full hour so you may want to wait until you've got the time -- and possibly with headphones, in case little ears are listening. Nothing obscene, mind you, but lots of frank talk about my favorite subject in the world -- er, I mean, my second favorite *after* little furry animals.
Please please do feel free to offer feedback, whether you loved it or hated it.
Categories: Autobiographical Urges
Sex and Culture
Sex and Relationships
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sex On-Line
Sexual Humor
Sexual Politics
Posted on 7/24/2008 3:08:45 PM by Gloria Brame
Out, damn'd vanilla! out, I say!
Needless to say, the uproar over the Mosley case has -- depending on your point of view -- either opened a frank and exciting new public dialogue about sadomasochism or given vanilla people an opportunity to try and rut around in our psyches.
Some people, like the admirable British SM activist, Deborah Hyde (not to be confused with American SM erotica author, Debra Hyde
), believe Mosley's case is positive for SMers.
This trial is a good thing,' said Deborah Hyde, spokeswoman for Backlash, which campaigns for BDSM rights. 'We're finally getting the chance to talk to the media, who have ignored us for years. In Max Mosley we've got a man who says: "This is who I am." He's got expensive lawyers who can fight his case, but many others end up being dragged through the family courts or in front of their employers. In Mosley, we have someone who is fighting our corner.'
Whatever turns them on? Inside the minds of the sadomasochists
I agree with her philosophically. But then when I think about people who don't even know that much about human sexuality in the first place trying to impress with titles like "Inside the Minds of Sadomasochists," I cringe. Talking to media is great, it's wonderful to know they are finally willing to listen. But what exactly are they hearing? More importantly, how much do they understand, how do they report SM, and what message are they ultimately spreading?
For example, the title of the above story suggests that there is some kind of monolithic SM mind that can be penetrated to reveal what makes us all tick. What?? You can't get "inside the mind" of all SMers anymore than you can get inside the mind of all Catholics or Jews. See (whispering a big secret): people are individuals. Even sadomasochistic people. SHHHH. Don't tell anyone. We wouldn't want to scare vanillas by making them actually consider SMers as diverse human beings instead of widgets whose specs can be published on the web.
Also, the reporter felt compelled to find clinicians to talk about how SM causes psychic stress and becomes an "addiction" for some. One small problem: "sexual addiction" is not a clinical diagnosis. It is not listed in the APA; it is a theory developed in large part by a shrink of dubious standing (Patrick Carnes). In fact, sex addiction is just a culturally popular theory which appeals to those who believe that "sex is bad so a lot of sex is even worse," i.e., most vanilla members of Judeo-Christian culture.
So why did the reporter feel the need to dredge up a negative angle on SM? I don't believe it was in the interest of journalistic fairness (giving all points of view) but rather because vanilla editors are so scared of appearing to endorse BDSM, they insisted on showing the "down side" of SM.
Ask yourself: if he was writing about the joys of married sex would he feel compelled to find a marriage counselor to tell him about all the husbands and wives who credit marriage with destroying their lives? Un-fucking-likely. Vanillas assume that married sex is a good thing and that sex problems in a marriage are unusual events and aberrations which do not define all married sex. But when it comes to BDSM, the stereotype still holds that BDSM is a questionable practice in the first place and that abuse, violence, psychic stress and worse naturally go with the BDSM territory.
Similarly, in this next article, the title lets readers know that BDSM is all about pain ( thus suggesting its opposite, that you're not an BDSMer if you don't like pain). Holy crap. Didn't we all cover this in BDSM workshops years ago? If not, well I KNOW I covered it in my books.
Adventures in the world of pain
The orgy at the heart of the Max Mosley case wasn't just any orgy. It was an S&M orgy. Are sadomasochistic activities an 'affront to civilisation'? Or just part of a wide spectrum of acceptable sexual activity?
I'll answer that question: It's door number two.
And so this is why I always prefer reading about SM *by* SMers. We own our sexuality in ways no vanillas can begin to comprehend. We live it. We get it. It should be our truths which tell the story of SM.
I'm not saying we should shut off this dialogue: I love the fact that people are now being forced to consider that even famous racing bosses from rich families shamelessly enjoy the slap-and-tickle, alongside rent-boys in leather chaps and the proper wives of British spies. I'm delighted Mosley's smashing stereotypes and demanding the right to do whatever-the-fuck-he-wants with consenting adults.
But unless and until we get media to quit promoting prejudice by writing from a base of ignorance about WIITWD, I suspect the vanilla dialogue about BDSM will stumble along, woefully short of cluefulness, for years to come.
Categories: Science and Culture
Sex and History
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sex Laws and Crimes
Sexual Politics
Posted on 7/23/2008 7:21:24 PM by Gloria Brame
Mosley gets stranger and stranger
I've been following the strange tale of Max Mosley, the F1 racing boss allegedly caught doing Nazi play in an SM dungeon. The alleged part refers to the Nazi play; Mosley himself has openly admitted he engages in SM. In fact, I blogged a while back about how I admired his courage in choosing to openly admit to being a sadomasochist, not apologizing for it or making the vaguest attempt to deny his proclivities, instead fighting to keep his job (successfully) and suing the paper which published the story.
Mosley is particularly piqued about the claim that Nazi play was involved. Mosley -- the son of a notorious Nazi sympathizer -- clearly has an emotional stake in all this and seems determined to prove several points. First, that the paper had no right to violate his privacy; that their story contained lies; that consensual SM is acceptable; and, perhaps, that as the child of a fascist, he is pretty damn pissed off about being tarred with his father's sins.
Meanwhile, as if all the above wasn't wild enough, the story is filled with more twists than a corkscrew.
For one, turns out, Mosley was set up. For another, he was set up by one of the professional dommes who was there. For yet another, that prodomme happens to be married to a British spy. Leading to a whole LOT gossip about conspiracies and why a spy's wife worked as a dominatrix....leading to statements from the spy about how this scandal has destroyed his career and his life.
The MI5 officer who quit after his wife was exposed as a prostitute in a sadomasochistic orgy with Max Mosley has told for the first time how the affair has ruined their lives.
The spy was forced to resign after confessing he was married to the ‘professional dominatrix’, who secretly videoed the sex session with the F1 motor racing boss and sold details to a newspaper.
The former £30,000-a-year mobile surveillance officer – who tracked terror suspects – said he quit to spare his bosses embarrassment.
He would not discuss how much he knew about his wife’s involvement in setting up the sting against Mosley, or if he played any part.
MI5 officer whose wife was exposed as a prostitute in Max Mosley orgy says the ordeal has devastated their lives
But wait! There's more! It now appears his wife has either gone mad, or was mad in the first place, because she's just been declared too mentally unstable to testify.
The Max Mosley privacy case took a dramatic turn yesterday as the star witness failed to appear.
Woman E, a dominatrix, took part in a sado-masochistic session with the motorsport boss and four other women and secretly filmed it for the News of the World.
But yesterday the paper's QC told the High Court her 'emotional and mental state is such that it would not be fair or reasonable to call her to give evidence'.
Dominatrix who secretly filmed Mosley sex party is declared 'unfit' to face court
Categories: Post-Modern Pop Culture
Sex and Culture
Sex and History
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sex Laws and Crimes
Sexual Politics
Posted on 7/23/2008 7:20:30 PM by Gloria Brame
Sites spank Kramer Bussel
The editor of SPANKED
(and lots of other hot BDSM titles) tells reporter Eric Krangel about her recent experience with Internet censorship. While YouTube and Blip had no problems with her non-pornographic short, other sites considered them pornographic.
Nearly all online video sites (except those purpose-built for porn) have policies in place against uploading "adult" content. So what exactly qualifies as "adult"?
Based on Rachel Kramer Bussel's experiences, that depends on what site you're visiting....
"I wanted the video to appeal to as many people as possible, I wasn't making pornography."
Two of the sites disagreed. Within two hours, she got a note from Flickr:
As per our Community Guidelines, “restricted” video content is not allowed on Flickr . We’ve removed your video.
Vimeo followed a few hours later:
Your video 'Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica Book Trailer (1353209)' has been removed from Vimeo because it violates our policies. Vimeo does not allow porn....
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read story
Check out Rachel's Books on Amazon
Categories: Sex and Sadomasochism
Sex On-Line
Sexual Politics
Posted on 7/23/2008 7:19:32 PM by Gloria Brame
Court rules on the obvious: lesbians are everywhere
Perhaps the most ridiculous and too-stupid-to-take-seriously lawsuit ever in recent news comes from Greece, where three people who live on the island of Lesbos tried to get local courts to make it illegal for lesbians to call themselves lesbians.
Court rules lesbians are not just from Lesbos
A Greek court has dismissed a request by residents of the Aegean island of Lesbos to ban the use of the word lesbian to describe gay women, according to a court ruling made public on Tuesday.
Three residents of Lesbos, the birthplace of the ancient Greek poetess Sappho whose love poems inspired the term lesbian, brought a case last month arguing the use of the term in reference to gay women insulted their identity.
In a July 18 decision, the Athens court said the word did not define the identity of the residents of the island, and so it could be validly used by gay groups in Greece and abroad.
In other world news, three lesbians from the Isle of Man are petitioning the World Court to make it illegal for men to call themselves men.
Categories: Sex and Culture
Sex and History
Sex Laws and Crimes
Sexual Politics
Posted on 7/23/2008 7:18:34 PM by Gloria Brame
Festival of Feet: fuck me shoes by Laboutin
To my mind, THE most fetishistic (and possibly most expensive) of the footwear designers on runways right now, Christian Laboutin's shoes makes me think he has a VERY serious foot fetish. I'll begin with some samples of shoes you can wear...and then a series he did for an art exhibition which are clearly nothing you could or would want to walk in...




These are gorgeous to behold, but impossible to walk in.
I think of this one as the siamese-twin-shoe: the heels seem to be joined.

Mmmmm...

I'm thinking that, off-camera, she's hanging on to something to keep herself from falling over.
Kneeling works, I guess!

Beautiful to behold -- but just to behold.

Categories: Post-Modern Pop Culture
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sexual Beauty
Posted on 7/22/2008 11:55:05 PM by Gloria Brame
Festival of Feet: fuck me shoes by Gucci
Wow, these shoes come with a girl in them.

And these come with a boy too. How convenient.

Maybe it's just me, but I think Gucci understands the mind of the dominatrix: or at least the aesthetic. Just looking at these next three makes me want to step on someone.
Grind him down...

Make him lick the tips of my toes....

Let him know I mean business. Very STERN business.

Made for a goddess!

So incredibly sensual...I wouldn't even need anyone else to enjoy them...

Categories: Post-Modern Pop Culture
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sexual Beauty
Posted on 7/22/2008 11:54:09 PM by Gloria Brame
Festival of Feet: fuck me shoes by Prada
A few weeks ago, my slavey-thang (and official chauffeur) convinced me to squander a vast sum of money on a new pair of Prada eyeglasses. I desperately needed new glasses and it'd been ridiculously hard for me to find the time to go deal with it, so sensing an opportunity, Ketzel convinced me I *had* to have the BEST. I protested weakly, then tried on two dozen other pairs and was finally forced to agree that, yes, indeed, the highly fetishistic, faux snakeskin lined Pradas were DIVINE. Being an honorable wife, I figured I'd call Will just to prepare him for the price-tag. "Honey, do you mind if I spend $500+ on eyeglasses?" "Are you out of your mind?" he quietly asked. "Urm...Why yes! I am! Why pretend otherwise at this late stage of the nutty game?" So that sealed it. Besides, the devil wears Prada! Perfect.
Now I needed Prada shoes to match. And being the bargain-loving Jewess I am, I turned to eBay, home to ridiculously discounted designer goods, and promptly bid on a Prada dress (thanks to my slavey-boy in NY for subsidizing that one) and shoes (thanks to my clients for that--if knowing your therapist spends your money on high-end designer goods doesn't motivate you all to get healthy in a hurry, I don't know what willl). Of course, I will probably keep shoes and dress in a private shrine in terror that the first time I wear 'em my dogs will pee on them.
Anyway, shopping for shoes is not just a necessity for me but something of a sexual thrill. Oh, yes, I love the shoes, ladies and gents (and the handbags too). So in addition to shoes I would wear (I refuse to wear super-high heels), I got lost in shoe-lust gazing at models that, as far as I'm concerned, were meant to be kissed and licked, while your tooties are hoisted high, preferably on a bed.
Here are some of my fave Prada picks (and for those who don't know, Miu-Miu is a Prada line).
The teacup handle -- to make drinking champagne from a shoe that much more elegant.

A little ankle bondage makes the world go round.

Inexplicably...I LOVE LOVE LOVE these. So Victorian/decadent.

Proving that sometimes, all that glitters can be gold.

Straaaaaaaaaaaaaaps. Lots and lots of little straaaaaaps.

These don't say fuck-me so much as oooh, intriguing. On the other hand, it does seem to signal "I'm a girl-who-likes-girls," which is always good for a little fuck-me traction.

Categories: Post-Modern Pop Culture
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sexual Beauty
Posted on 7/22/2008 11:53:12 PM by Gloria Brame
Festival of Feet: the high art of the fuck me shoe
Browsing some breezy site a little while ago, I noted that the blogger included a pic of what she called her "fuck me" shoes. My first thought upon seeing her skanky pair was she must go trolling at Wal-Mart.
But it set me to thinking: what makes a fuck me shoe a fuck me shoe? Improbably high heels? Glaringly bright hues? Straps and buckles? Should they be classy and expensive or is it more of a turn-on when they're priced right for a two-dollar whore?
I decided to surf around and create my own picture gallery of extreme shoes from some the world's most interesting and accomplished clothing designers. I think these shoes scream fuck me, though ymmv.
I'll break this into a few posts since, as you'll see, my shoe fetish got the better of me...
First up, a pair of shoes I found on (of all places!) Gizmodo, which they described as "the fuckiest fuck me shoes," though I think what they really liked was the gadget on the ankle.
What kind of a contortionist do you have to be to check the time yourself? Oh...I get it...it's the guy worshipping these wonder-booties that can keep an eye on the time. As in: "is the session over ALREADY, Mistress?"

Categories: Post-Modern Pop Culture
Sex and Sadomasochism
Sexual Beauty
Posted on 7/22/2008 11:52:15 PM by Gloria Brame
Viagra can help women too
Very encouraging new study about the wonder drug for men that suggests women may be able to take a viagra to overcome the dampening effect that anti-depressants have on their libido. Let's hope more studies prove this true.
Viagra helps depressed women: study
The erectile dysfunction drug Viagra has proven effective at combating sexual dysfunction in depressed women, according to a study published Tuesday.
Sexual dysfunction is a common side effect of antidepressants and a major reason why people stop taking medication for their depression.
This is particularly problematic given that twice as many women as men are prescribed antidepressants but the most effective drugs used to combat sexual dysfunction in men are not approved for use in women, the authors wrote.
Researchers tested Viagra on 98 women whose depression was in remission but were still experiencing sexual dysfunction such as lack of arousal or pain during sex....
"By treating this bothersome treatment-associated adverse effect in patients who have been effectively treated for depression, but need to continue on their medication to avoid relapse or recurrence, patients can remain antidepressant-adherent, reduce the current high rates of premature medication discontinuation, and improve depression disease management outcomes," wrote lead author George Nurnberg of the University of New Mexico School of Medicine.
Category: Sexual Health
Posted on 7/22/2008 3:28:25 AM by Gloria Brame